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Posted On: 09/04/2008 18:53:30

I'm new to this thing and I just really need a place to vent right now. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 9 months now and still nothing has happened. We haven't told our families that we are even trying because we knew it might be difficult going into this. I try to remain hopefull and keep the idea that if God wants me to have kids it will happen... when he's ready. And maybe that's what's wrong. I want it now. We've wanted for a while and Have done everything to make it happen. The good news is that our sex life has improved greatly. We have a lot of fun trying to make a baby.

I've taken the ovulation tests every month as well as just keeping track of days and temperatures and everything to know the right time to make it happen. It's just frustrating every month when my cycle starts again. It's kind of depressing and I don't even have anybody to talk to about it. Our parents started hounding us for grandbabies as soon as we got married 3 years ago. It's just hard.... I don't want to have to tell them that it won't happen.

Last month I had every sympton. I am always like clockwork and was 4 days late. I had heartbut=rn really bad and I have never had heartburn in my life. At first I thought I was having a heart attack. My breast were swollen, I was exhausted and I just didn't feel like myself. Kind of airbrained. I kept thinking it was just me wishing and hoping so I waited 5 or 6 days after I was supposed to start before I took a test and when I did it came back negative. I started 3 days later.

Sometimes I just think God is up there laughing at me. Teasing me becaus4e he knows how bad we want this. It's hard to stay possitive. Sometimes I just want to give up and stop even trying because what's the point in getting my hopes up. I just need someone to tell me that one day it will happen....

For now at least I have my kitty...




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From: Chrisi84
11/27/2010 13:55:07

Kathybug, i understand what ur going thru right now. My husband & I have been trying for 3 yrs as well and when ur period comes each month its devastating.


I ignore the signs each month now, as from research ive found that pregnancy symptoms are so similar to period syptoms, so often u get ur hopes up just to crush them again. This wont help, u need to be relaxed, not stressed, and yes i do know how bloody hard that is! Sometimes i want to slap my husband when he says it (so i cant believe im saying it to u!), but the fact remains he is right, for once.


I think u shud book an appointment with ur doctor and start fertility investigations, if u feel ready of course. They will start once u've been trying for 18 months - 2 years. I regretted not going sooner (i waited til about 3 months ago) as they could have begun treatment sooner, as it is i will wait another 2 or 3 months to start the drugs i need. I want to save anyone else this feeling, there is so much they can do these days. Ive even been told that lots of women dont even get treatment - they phone up to say they got pregnant, so maybe it gets those body clocks working right!


I think perhaps u shud talk to ur family, infertility is not ur fault and u shudn't suffer alone. My family has been brilliant, helping me see the good in bleak situations, reminding me that so long as ur moving forwards, ur getting closer to getting pregnant. It helps to have women to talk to, sometimes husbands dont understand every feeling ur going thru, they cant help it theyre just different in the ways they deal with things mostly.


I dont believe that God is laughing at u, he helps at the right time. I know this because he answered my Mum. I was adopted, but was ditched with my Mum(who later adopted me) at birth. My birth mother didn't want me, but kept taking me back to try to win back my birth father and dumping me again when it didn't work, she often dumped my sister there too. It was on one such occasion my Mum stopped in at a little church on Dartmoor she had heard of. St Michael de Rupe at Brentor, this was the late 80s, but its still standing. She prayed to God to bring her babies home, begged him, before leaving to go home. Within hours of getting home, we were brought back and although my older sister eventually went back to live with my birth mother permantently, I never did.  My Mum never told me until recently, at the time I think she was scared that she would jinx it, but she never told anyone until me. Im going to visit this church soon and hope he answers me too, but im telling u so u can have hope too.



From: administrator
09/05/2008 11:08:42

You may have had a miscarriage when you were late.  Sometimes women have a miscarriage and don't even know it.   How long have you been trying?  Hang in there.  It'll happen, just don't give up.  I think Barby is right about relaxing and if you feel it's taking too long, see a fertility specialist.  They can give you meds to help. Sending you an Ehug!

From: barby
09/05/2008 03:46:22

Aww, don't think like that, the same thing happened to me when I wanted to get prego it just didn't seem to happen when i kinda was like whatever forget this BOOM it happened I think you might just have to relax & not think so much about it. Hey at least ur enjoying ur sex life . Hang in there. Have you thought of seeing a doctor?