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I am 27 years old and am 9 weeks, 2 days pregnant. This is my first time. Though the father and I have not known each other long, less than a year, he is happy and helpfull so far with the pregnancy. He wants me to move in with him, which shouldn't be a problem because he has a nice house and with the baby on his way I could use a place to raise him. I feel very stressed when I think about moving in with the father though. I have lived with 2 other boyfriends, and it didn't work. I promised myself a long time ago that I would not move in with another guy unless we were married. I also didn't plan on getting pregnant either, and this was his argument when we talked about how I was feeling.

I am crazy in love with this man! He is an amazing! And will be an excellent father! I just feel like all of my choices are being stripped away, that the independance I have fought for and earned is being stolen from me. I want to do the right thing for our child, I just don't know what that is anymore.

My motto is... "We all learn from our mistakes, and you can't learn from them if you don't make them." We also can't base whats in our future from our past experiences. I'd at least try living together. It would be nice to have a little family of your own with a partner to take part in that, or things don't work out... you go back to being by yourself with a child, and hopefully he stays the good man you feel in love with at one point and wants to remain a good father for your child. Either way... you can't tell not knowing.

Aww! Thank you! I have moved in, and so far ok, but have only been here a night. I am so scared and nervous... I want this to work out. Find myself apalogising a lot, and couldn't sleep very well last night (lol! and not just because I have been waking up every couple of hours to visit the restroom)

Even if it wasn't for our baby I would want to see this thru, to make a life with this man. The fact that he is so caring, and interested in the health of our child and has been so involved in the pregnancy makes me feel almost terrified. He is so amazing and I keep worrying that I will do something to "ruin" things. Maybe this is just the hormones.  

Anywho, thank you so much for writing back. I hope you have a wonderfull evening!

lol your too sweet. I'm sure he is just as nervous. Guys are just better at hiding it then we are. The power of love is strong... you'd be surprised at what it will help overcome. You two will have many experiences (good and bad) together. As long as you stick together you'll make it threw anything. I'm 26 and have been married 9 years (10 this October.) Yeap... got married at seventeen. So many people said young couples don't last blah blah blah. Good thing I'm the one who decides my future. I wouldn't change a thing. My blessings are with you and your family. You'll have to keep me updated with the baby, and how your doing... I'm also nine weeks, but it's my fourth kid lol I'm definitely done after this one.

Just wondering how everything is going for you both?

Due dates are coming up fast and I was thinking of you.

Hoping you have effortless deliveries and happy newborn moments,

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Hi! Baby was born Sept 12, at 10:47 am. Thank you for the effortless delivery hopes, but our little man was posterior and very difficult to deliver. 41 hours of labor! We had to start Pitocin four hours before we could successfully birth him, but we did it! And he is here! He is the sweetest, most curious little man ever! We couldn't be happier or more in love with each other and our son!