Too Hot to Handle | Father's Rights ???

You are single and enjoying the dating life until you find yourself pregnant and definitely feeling confused as to how to proceed.

The movie "Knocked Up" gave a very poor example of how to handle telling the father and discussing what to do when faced with the situation.

Do you know what rights the "potential" father has these days?

Do you feel that his rights are as equally valid as the mothers?

What do you do when faced with either a deadbeat Dad, who won't help with medical expenses and pregnancy care or a Dad who wants to continue the pregnancy and keep the child when the Mother doesn't?

Where do you stand in all of this?

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I think that as far as the whole Mom doesn't want the baby but dad does scenario, she should have to go through with the pregnancy and give the baby to him. But he should have to pay half the medical costs and stuff.

I guess I see it as, she chose to have sex knowing that it was a possible outcome and its half his kids too.

As far as Deadbeat dads, I think if they aren't paying there should be work camps or something where they have to work to support their kids. my friend is dealing with this right now and she is on food stamps and he is driving a bmw, just not right.

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This one is a tough call.

I think the "potential" dad has rights if he chooses to be present in the life of the child - with or without a relationship with the mother. If he just plans to parachute in once in awhile fleecing gifts or something, then he probably wants to just play dad compared to be one - in which case it'll be up to the mother involved in whether she feels it's beneficial.

Call me old fashioned, but I have a hard time believing a mother (without serious psychological or social problems) wouldn't want the baby after giving birth to it? It happens...I know, but still. I'm not sure that I could have a baby and just hand it over and forget about it.

I agree that when you consent to have sex - even while using birth control - you acknowledge that pregnancy is possible. If you choose to put yourself in that situation with a stranger...these unfortunate problems happen.

A friend of mine would say - it's the mother's body so she has veto power on terminating the pregnancy. I'm not so sure it's that black and white for me, so I just don't have sex with strangers - works for me!