Pregnancy Topics | When is the right time to share the news?

I just reached the 12 week mark, and I will be starting to tell my family and friends.

When did everyone else start sharing the good news?  Did you tell your family first, or your friends too?  Should I wait a little longer maybe?

Well, I used to think it was silly to wait before telling people. I wanted to share it right away, and so with my first pregnancy we did - told our whole family and all our friends the moment it was confirmed. Then lost the pregnancy a couple of days later. Looking back on it now, actually, I'm glad I had some close family and friends to support me throught that, but I do wish I hadn't told absolutely everyone.

With our next two, that's what I did. I just told by sister and best friend, and waited till we were safely past the 12-week mark to tell everyone else. And everything went perfectly fine. But I couldn't possibly contain the news any longer than 12 weeks. I was too excited and it seemed strange to keep such a big secret from everyone.

If I get pregnant again, I don't know what I'll do - I'm older now so there are more risk factors, and I think some members of my family will be less than excited...

Congratulations on your pregnancy! When I found out I was pregnant I was too excited to keep it a secret. I let my close family and friends know right away and they were very excited to hear the news. But really it's up to you and whoever you're comfortable sharing the news with at this stage.

I am very happy for your pregnancy! I am a single mom-to-be, due in July, and I told my parents about the baby as soon as I found out. They were very excited for me and have volunteered to help me out with anything I need. That being said, I don't think there is a "right" time, you just have to feel the right time.

I know my cousin, who was 19 at the time of her pregnancy, delayed the news as much as possible. She was afraid to break the news to her family and friends, since she was still just a teenager.

Enjoy your pregnancy (as I found out these past months, it comes with both happy and un-pleasent moments at times).

- Sue

I'm glad I waited to tell my family.  This will be the first grandchild on both sides, so I didnt want to get anyones hopes up too early.  I think I would tell a friend beforehand next time though...  Just in case I needed the support.

I had a miscarriage in January at 7 weeks and I hadn't old anyone that I was pregnant. After the fact, I wished there were a few people that I had told so that I could talk to them about what happened. I am now pregnant again and decided that I did want to tell a few people so that I would have some support in case I have another miscarriage. I have one friend in particular who had a miscarriage and then a healthy baby boy shortly after, so I have really been talking to her a lot because I know she went through the same thing. I also decided to tell a couple people at work because last time I didn't and then I had to explain to them afterwards why I was on bedrest for a week. (We have a very small office). 

The choice is up to you. It all really depends on what you are comfortable and what your reasons are for telling or not telling. I personally like to remind the people that I do tell that there is a possibility of a miscarriage at this stage (f1st trimester) so that it is easier to tell them if it does happen. At the same time, I am so excited and want to tell everyone. I am also a terrible lier and everyone knew I was trying to get pregnant so people keep asking me if I am. It's really difficult not to tell some people :)

That was my problem -- telling a believable lie. I'm also a horrible liar and I pretty much gave it away within a week or two after I found out. I don't think I'll be taking up poker, and I sure hope nobody ever trusts me with a surprise party secret!

Hi,, My name is Maranda.  I am on my 6th pregnancy , with my first i was 16 so i waited to tell anyone until i was four months along out of fear, then when i got married and had my second pregnancy i told everyone right away it was great.  But then i did the same thing a year later and had a misscarriage at 7 weeks, it was aweful to have to face the sad pathetic looks people give you.  With my next two miscarriages  this year i just told my husband, mom, and sister and it was a little better but hard to have to watch what i said to people.  Now I am pregnant at about 6 weeks and i havent even told my husband, i am scared to put him through another misscarriage.  I am just crossing my fingers and maybe in a few weeks i will give him good news this time.

Hi All!

I'm 36 now and have been trying for 2-1/2+ years!  Since we'd been trying so long, we decided to try IUI... and the first time around it worked!  Just 4 days ago I found out I'm finally preggers!  (The only thing I really wanted for Christmas this year!!)

Anyway, I had a miscarriage in january 2010... We went wine tasting with friends and I wasn't sure if I could drink if I had JUST found out the night before.  So we ended up telling all our friends and felt obligated to tell family.  5 days later we miscarried and my husband regrets telling everything. 

Now, 4 days ago finding out I'm preggers (and getting that confirmed by my fertility doctor) I'm so excited and spilling the beans to my girlfriends only and will be telling my parents and sisters at Christmas.  After that, I don't plan to tell anyone until 12 weeks.  But I want to share this experience with those I am close to because on my husband's side of the family as well as mine, this will be the first (and possibly only) blood baby of the families.  VERY EXCITING!! 

I'm really excited about the process... so happy to finally experience this!  ...and with all of you too!! 

Christi